Judging

Judging : 

What happen when you judge?

1.  You are taking God's place as the true judge. Don't judge, cause you will be judged by THE JUDGE.

2.  Focus on the negative, ignoring the positive, thus eliminating the idea  of potential growth, relationship, and fruits from other people. You are, by judging, 'locking' that person on that grade you are grading and claim that it is their 'fate' to be in the state of being that is perceived by you.  By then: instead of speaking life, you sow curse and death on other people's life, and it griefs the heart of God, the life giver, the hope restorer, and the Lord of 2nd (3rd,4,5,6th?) chance(s).

3.  You can see it, you can help it. If you spot flaws in others, you actually given and have the anointing and burden and ability to help that person.  Coz you wont be bothered by that in the first place if you don't have it as your strength.

4.  Harmful to self : hardened your own heart, thus make it more difficult to open yourself to rebuke and positive encouragement. The longer it takes, the harder your heart gets.  Hardened heart tends to grow root of bitterness, anxiety, stress, and division within family, friendships, marriage, and church.  You are what you allow to grow in your lives.

What can we do? Should we treat other people equally? Should we lose common sense? Can we do evaluation and decide based on logic and track records? How to define and divide between the thin line of 'judging' and 'doing what is right', and using wisdom and understanding?

The balance side of 'evaluating':

1.  Track record is important, but God is more interested in our future, rather than the past. It is God's will that all seek for 'LIFE', so instead of being negative, let us all be the agents of Light. Help, encourage, pray, in the way that you can.  People respect a footballer more than a football critic, a chef more than a food critic, a church builder than a church critic.

2.  Stop talking and sharing about someone else's 'handicapped'. As this will lead to gossip, rumor, and by doing that you are allowing 2 things to happen:

A. You are creating and allowing yourself to be surrounded by toxic people who will feed on any information just to make themselves feel good and better about themselves. Thus, this is a bad, corrupt, and not a fruitful gang of people to be with.

B.  You are allowing yourself to be a divider and a 'splitter' and wherever you go, division and negative atmosphere follows. Thus without realizing, you are directing yourself as the center of attention and moral guru for others. Idolizing self values is also an idolatry.  You might not see it, but everything is 'judged' by the fruits. And fruits take time to grow.

3.  It is better to prevent rather than to heal. Lebih baik mencegah daripada mengobati.  In family, in the workplace, and in ministry; we need to develop few things as values:

A.  Budaya bicara di depan daripada di belakang.

B. Budaya berniat membantu dibanding menyatakan kesalahan.

C. Budaya memberi waktu kepada segala sesuatu untuk bertumbuh. 

D. Budaya memberi batasan sambil dipupuk pengembangan.

E.  Budaya bersukacita atas keberhasilan orang lain.

F.  Budaya tidak memfasilitasi gosip dan perpecahan.